April 1, 2020
It’s hard to believe we’re in a time where so many people are having to postpone their special events. If you’re reading this you could use some help. You already spent so much time, energy and money planning one of the most important days of your life and now you’re faced with an unimaginable reality of having to reschedule. But how? Here’s a few of my tips.
This is all incredibly stressful and hard so take a few days to cry, drink the wine, do the yoga, binge watch tv and just be together before diving in. It’s so important to put your mental health and relationship first in all of this.
It doesn’t make it really any easier but you are together and you will eventually be marrying the love of your life and if you can remember that it may ease some of the intensity of it all. You day may look different than originally planned and that can really be hard to navigate mentally, emotionally and logistically so be gentle on yourself and each other as you go through the process of replanning your wedding.
Give each other a big hug, right now!
If you are not already working with a planner I would recommend hiring one now. All the planners I know have implemented reschedule packages to help support couples through this time. Yes, it’s an extra expense but it may be an invaluable way to reduce stress. They are working tirelessly for couples to make your dream a reality, in a few months.
Reach out to the vendors that you must have apart of your wedding. For example, if your venue is a must reach out to them first to get a few new dates. Then reach out to your photographer, florist, dj, etc. and find out which dates they are available. It will be challenging to get all of your vendors so be prepared to prioritize.
Remember that your vendors are people who have also been tremendously impacted during this time but all the wedding vendors I know are big hearted people who truly want the best for you and your day will do everything in their power to make your day happen. You signed a contract with them and it’s important to know your rights but it’s very likely your vendor team will be willing to work with you in whatever way possible if you are patient, kind and understanding.
I always recommend brides pick the top 3 most important things to them when wedding planning and keep those in perspective while budgeting and planning. For me that was photography, open bar and our ceremony. If you have these elements top of mind as you’re rescheduling, I think it may help it feel less overwhelming as things start to change.
A ton of stationary designers are offering free digital “change the dates” that match your original stationary. This is an elegant way to keep your theme and update your guests on change of plans.
Consider a new venue if necessary or think about getting married on a Friday or Sunday or even an off-season time of year (like summer in Florida or winter in Oregon).
You could also consider doing an intimate ceremony with just your photographer, videographer, officiant and a beautiful bouquet and hosting your reception later this year.
Lean on your friends and family to help you with things that don’t work out in the rescheduling.
If you lose an element to your wedding due to rescheduling consider bringing in something just for fun, like an ice cream truck, a photobooth bus, an oyster cart, etc. Guests always remember these untraditional touches and may help make the whole thing seem exciting in a whole new way!
About prioritizing your budget as your rescheduling? Want to redo your color palette? Just want someone to run ideas off of. I’m your girl, seriously! I genuinely love weddings and being apart of my couples story so whether you’re a bride of mine or not, I’m here to support you!